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Marriage March 27, 2009

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I’m getting married, BTW.


Because some people do NOT want to hear boring wedding details.


Shampoo March 27, 2009

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There are three million shampoos in this world, and I’m a sucker for all of them. Maybe not all of them. VO5 needs to be burned. White Rain, too. If you haven’t heard of those, it’s because you can buy decent shampoo. You should feel pleased with your financial position in life; go feed an African child.

Meanwhile, I’ve entered into a world where I can choose my shampoo now. It’s bizarre. Instead of being required to marinate my hair in olive oil to keep it from being crazy frizzy, I can choose something that smells yummy from the body care aisle. Better yet, I can go to stores that are entirely dedicated to making my hair and skin look good. Fantastic! I want to know, what do you use on your hair?

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Leading With Love February 3, 2009

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I work in a level II group home for girls. The reasons the girls come are many, but in this conversation, not important. What is not varied is their needs – discipline, structure, and love. My coworkers have the first one down. Sometimes they have the second, too. What I rarely see is the last one.

When you have a family that has no structure, has no discipline, has never taught you what equals good and what equals bad, then you have no foundation to fall back on. My goal going into work is to do the job understanding that love is the foundation of all the choices I make towards the girls. Why do I have them do their chores. Why do I refuse to bend the rules? I think that as I’ve settled into my positions, the girls have to come realise I’m the one who won’t bend – but it’s for no one. There’s not a special or a favorite who gets around me. They also know they can ask me why a rule is in place, and I won’t say “because.” If I don’t know why, I tell them. If I think I know why, I guess and tell them I’m guessing. They know I don’t take disrespect to anyone. When they tell me the only disrespect those who disrespect them, I ask them, “Is that what I do? I hold you to the same standard I hold myself.”

So, I become irritated when staff give the girls marks because the staff is having a bad day, when it seems the grading is based off emotion. I am irritated when they scream or tell the girls a rule exists when it’s not in the handbook. I once pointed out to a staff that they had just told a girl something that wasn’t in their handbook, and so she wouldn’t have know. The staff replied to me that it doesn’t matter, not all the rules are in there. So where is the structure and stability we’re suppose to be providing them?

So I have this job, and it’s basically to show the Gospel, day after day after day.

Now January 10, 2009

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I didn’t plan or mean to, but I’m using the new civil year to clean up and hold on to practices I begain last year. Groceries are in the cupboards and fridge so that eating out is almost obsolete.  I’ve cut up carrots and celery for snack, because the vegetable were going bad. I’m so easily tempted and when Matt says, “let’s get subway,” who am I to pass that up. Now, Matt has seen all the groceries, and all my budgeted money is separated into a neat pocket, accordion file.

I cover during Adoration and morning Eucharist. I’m in the process of moving towards covering everyday. I have accomplished this by wearing scarves at work. When classes come around, I hope I can wear them to class without too much anxiety. This really leaves just time at home when I’m not. I don’t particularly feel like explaining why I’m doing this. Maybe another post. I actually admire Quaker clothing, but I don’t see myself switching to that anytime soon.

Idle hands are the tool of the devil December 31, 2008

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I would really like a sewing machine of my own. My favorite clothing to wear is plain long sleeved or short sleeved tees and long circle skirts. Both of these could easily be made on a sewing machine to my personal measurements instead of me spending 3 hours in Ross’s because no one carries long, plain skirts unless I want a long denim skirt. I would prefer not to be confused as being a Church of God member, thank you. I dress simply. I have a few formal dresses from college occasions and I have two dresses that I feel are pretty over the top for the Martini Room and a wedding that requires black cocktail attire. I have one set of glitzy jewelry that was bought as a Christmas present for me for the wedding and the Martini Room use, but these are not pieces that I would wear on a daily basis. 

I feel like I could spend my money on other things like food or household items. So, a sewing machine is in order. You can get a Singer for $100. I would say I can use the sewing machine for other household projects, but really it’s just so I can make myself clothing that I like.

Breathing December 28, 2008

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That’s *almost* what I’m doing now, breathing. My classes and finals are finished. I’m no longer learning to balance a full time job and a full time student load. I hope that by February, when classes restart, I’ll have the balancing more under control. The two biggest chunks that had to be cut from my life were attending church on Sundays and having sporadic hanging out time with friends. 

Not getting to attend on Sundays is a bit of a downer, because there are people I want to see at Grandview, but I have the opportunity to go to Evensong on Saturday nights and Adoration on Tuesday nights – both offer Eucharist, which is vitally important. The other, the hanging out, is more difficult and I believe has caused some people to assume I’m blowing them off. Frustrating is a bit of an understandment on that one. Sure, some people understand. The ones who have children, and spouses seem to get it. The other friends I have though, the ones who go to school and work part time, I get questions. “Where have you been?” “Why aren’t you hanging out anymore?” I’ve had a few cold shoulders in the recent days because, I think, a few people assume that I just don’t care about them.
Let’s see. A week  has 168 hours. 40 of those are spent at work. It takes me about 35 minutes to get to work. That’s an hour tacked on to the four days I work. 2 hours. I sleep 7 hours a night. That’s 49. I had 8 hours of in class work this semester. That’s in class. That’s not the studying and group work I need to do. So that leaves me 69 hours left to cook, clean, study, meet with groups, and generally get done what needs to get done. That seems like a lot, but when it’s broke up into All day Wednesday and Saturday, Monday, and Tuesday mornings – It really isn’t. 

But like I said, the classes are over. I worked two 8 hour shifts and two 12 hour shifts early this week so I had Thursday, Friday, AND Saturday night off. My sisters are visiting. It’s been nice. This coming week I’ll do a bit of overtime, but that means I get Saturday night off again, so I can go to a wedding. I’ve been able to actually cook mine and matt’s meals, so we don’t have to eat out because I’m too worn out to make anything. Things are getting clean, laundry is getting done and, God willing, when February comes I will have Matt on a routine of how to do things so we can both work, study, and not go insane. 

It’s Christmastide now. While most people are taking down their decorations, the Traditionals have just put theirs up and will leave them up until Epiphany. Next year I hope to have a rosymary topiary in place of a faux christmas tree and see if I can find somewhere to give me enough holly to decorate the entire downstairs so I can have more Church traditional decorations.

Whatever you’re doing to end or begin your Christmas celebration, celebrate Christ.

The truth about Christmas Cards December 18, 2008

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I hate Christmas cards.

There I said it.

I do not like them because I do not understand them. Why do I want a notecard that has just your name on the inside or, worse yet, a form letter that you send to everyone? Why would you want one from me?

Myth: Christmas Cards are a nice way of saying that you’re thinking of someone

Fact: No they are not. If you were really thinking of me, you would send me a personal letter, or a personal email. Christmas cards only mean that you’re thinking of a person if there is a personalised note inside, like the one my bff sent me this week. Signing your name to an impersonal quote created by hallmark is not.

Myth: Christmas cards are a good way of showing everyone how your family is doing.

Fact: Christmas is not about your family. In fact, Christmas isn’t about family at all, unless you’re talking about the Holy Family. Photo Christmas cards completely miss the point. Completely.

So that’s my feeling on Christmas cards. I admit here that I tend to open Christmas cards, look at them, and then put them back in the envelope. Then I usually toss them out a few days later. I tried to send Christmas cards once. Then I realised I was only doing it because I felt pressure from everyone sending out their 200+ cards a season. Mine didn’t even make it to the post office. 

Sidewalk December 12, 2008

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There aren’t enough sidewalks, not here at least. What I love about the cities, and what I loved about living in Wellington, was the ability to walk everywhere. i could walk across the whole city, and did so with frequency, since Peter was against driving – even in the rain. Here, there is no pedestrian friendly mentality. Everyone drives.

Taking a moment about Jeremy December 3, 2008

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Life is hectic. This whole working and schooling thing doesn’t work easily (but it is working, I think). I get on my computer to check email and I think, “I really should go over and write. I have things to write about, and I need some non-school brain work.” Then I get distracted and forget a few days. 

I thought I would take the time, though, tonight. My mother called me to say that Jeremy was on the news, and that he died earlier today around 2pm. I wasn’t best friends with Jeremy – he was older by two years. His family is a loving and kind family, though. His mother I knew best out of all of them – she was always very sweet and kind to me. 

I remember in 2006 when I got the call half a world away about my cousin dying in a crash. No prep. This was not on the schedule for the week. Jeremy had been making progress, though the past few days he was having some trouble and a very high temp. As I back read through the messages on the facebook page about the updates on Jeremy, I saw that someone had written very early in the morning that Jeremy had coded twice today. It was fast. It was not in the plans of anyone this week for Jeremy today.

So I pray for the Fryes. Death is just a sleep, until the Ressurection and Judgement. The dead will awake from their sleep and be united with their bodies once again.  Jesus’ resurrection marks the beginning of a restoration that he will complete upon his return. Part of this will be the resurrection of all the dead, who will “awake,” be embodied and participate in the renewal. We look towards the ressurection of the dead, and the life in this world to come. Amen.

Today is a holiday November 27, 2008

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